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Miss, Mme, Ms or Mrs?

I read this:
http://womeninbusiness.about.com/od/businessintroductionrules/a/whenusemissms.htm

What do you use when you write a feedback?
I read some other arcticles but I want to be sure.

I'm sorry if topic is in wrong place. I didn't know where else to put it.

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I just use the name.

I just use the name. Everything else seems way too formal.

/// Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it's the courage to continue that counts.

Agreed!

Unless the client has specifically requested I address them formally, I simply use their first name in the feedback. I do this for a specific purpose also because I want other contractors to KNOW the person is real and they are a good/bad client Wink

No, it is not in the wrong

No, it is not in the wrong place.

But a topic about this was posted this month also.

https://www.odesk.com/community/node/28435

No, this is a completely

No, this is a completely different thing. I knew her name. I didn't know if she is a married or single woman, Mrs. or Ms.
That's the issue I'm dealing here.

<3 Skrillex

It's not an issue, Vesna!

Vesna M. wrote:
No, this is a completely different thing. I knew her name. I didn't know if she is a married or single woman, Mrs. or Ms.
That's the issue I'm dealing here.

It's not an issue. If in doub "Ms" is not wrong as it can be correct for a married or unmarried person. Otherwise use the first name or the full name or the company name. There is no "issue."

I don't think I have ever used a title (Mr, Mrs, Ms Whatever) in any feedback!
If you look at the client's previous feedback from contractors, everyone else just calls her by her first name, except for some who just use "client" - Online freelancing is not as formal as brick & mortar places, and mostly people are on first name terms. If in doubt you can use the full name or use a Mr Ms Mrs - whateer, but it's not the norm.

The most important things is what you say about them, not what ttle you do or do not use.

If you're not sure check back what previous contractors used.

Also - if you have addressed someone by their first name throughout a project it's not wrong to do so in feedback. If I had a client who liked to be called Mr Surname then I'd use that in feedback, or just cann them "client"

Thank you. I like to stay

Thank you.

I like to stay formal because I don't know their preferences.

<3 Skrillex

It's ultimately up to you, Vesna

Vesna M. wrote:
Thank you.

I like to stay formal because I don't know their preferences.

I understand, and ultimately it is of course totally up to you, but anyone who calls you "Vesna" can (I would go as far as saying "should")generally be called by their first name.

It is not a relationship between a subordinate and a superior. It is a relationship between two people at the same level doing business on an equal basis.

I didn't thought about this.

I didn't thought about this. They do call me Vesna. Only one person wrote Mme. for me.
I understand we are equal. I have that approach, except in entitling them obviously. Hm.

<3 Skrillex

Uh, I was in a hurry and I

Uh, I was in a hurry and I just gave a feedback with full name and surname of my client. Without Mr. title.
Is that wrong? Should I ask him to enable me to change the feedback so I can entitle him properly?

<3 Skrillex

It doesn't matter in the slightest!

Vesna M. wrote:
Uh, I was in a hurry and I just gave a feedback with full name and surname of my client. Without Mr. title.
Is that wrong? Should I ask him to enable me to change the feedback so I can entitle him properly?

Hey?

No, it's not wrong, it doesn't matter in the slightest, and NO, of course you should not ask the client to enable you to change the feedback. Good grief!

Everything is ok now. I

Everything is ok now. Smile I asked oDesk support to add Mr. and leave surname only.

<3 Skrillex

Loosen up a bit, mate : )

Loosen up a bit, mate : )

/// Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it's the courage to continue that counts.

I always just use first

I always just use first names, pretty sure every client I've ever had has just called me Emily. I wouldn't be concerned if they put Miss, Ms, Mrs or even Mr in my feedback as long as it was good feedback! I wouldn't worry about it!